Moving in with a partner is a big step – but when you know it’s the right time it can be a really exciting new chapter in your life. Like any house move there is a lot of organising to do, and the added need to merge your stuff in way you wouldn’t usually in a shared house.
The best thing to do is have a look at what you both own already, and think about the size and style of the place you’re moving into together. If you’ve got doubles of any furniture, such as beds or dining tables, you can see which will fit into and suit your new place the best and you can sell the spare things for cash to help pay for any new furniture that you’re going to need.
There might be things that one or both of you already own, but sometimes it’s nice to start afresh so you might want to get some new bits anyway. In that case you can always sell things through a site like Gumtree London, or even donate it to a charity furniture shop if you’re in a rush to get rid of it.
Merging furniture is one thing, but things like record and movie collection are quite another. If it’s an opposites attract type situation then maybe you won’t have many doubles – but the chances are you’ll have some overlap in your collections. In that case you need to make a decision. Do you have space to keep doubles of albums and movies, or should you sell or donate the extras? If you’re particularly attached to your music collection and other bits (and depending on the amount of stuff it is) then it might be worth sticking the doubles in a box in the attic if you’ve got one. Then you can look forward to a blissful future together arguing over what it means that you wouldn’t part with your doubled up records. Maybe you should just sell them actually.
There are some financial arrangements to consider too. Some people find it helpful to open a joint bank account to make paying bills and rent easier. It can be a real benefit but it is also a massive step as it means accepting responsibility for each other’s financial situations in a very tangible way, so do think carefully before committing to it.
It’s also at a life stage like this that you might start considering taking out a life insurance policy, which ensures that your next of kin, and children if you have any, are taken care of if anything bad ever happens. If you are interested in this you can compare various policies and get quotes to see what is right for you and your partner.
With all the organising sorted and furniture lugging done, make sure you take a second to share a high-five over making it to the moving in stage – hopefully it’ll be the start of a brilliant time spent together.